Desire Without Longing – A Magical Balance

September 22, 2021

There are certain spiritual laws which govern our world. These laws define a way to live, guiding us into a space of joy, freedom from fear and abundant love of self and situation.

Yet, most of us are not aware of them. And if we are, it feels like we remember them, before slipping back into non-remembering. Or maybe that’s just me.

The spiritual journey is infinite. There is no end goal, no final destination. It is ever-lasting, spanning lifetime after lifetime to an indefinite point. Yet, we seem to be in a rush to find perfection, safety and happily-ever-after.

It’s the attitude of ‘life will be better when..’ something happens. Whether it be a job, love or something materialistic that we greatly desire.

Yet, when we long for something, we’re actually vibrating at the energy of lack, desperation and attachment. All energetic frequencies that block the very thing that we’re so desperate to attain.

It’s only when we let go of the end result, practicing non-attachment and being totally ok with something not being ‘ours’ that it usually shows up. If it’s meant to.

You know that old expression ‘it will happen when you least expect it’. Well it’s true. In that state of least expectation, we forget about wanting, it’s out of our minds completely, which is the opportune moment for it to be delivered to our door, gift wrapped in a big, shiny bow.

So many things have happened for me in this way. A home to rent. A dog to love. A job to financially provide. As soon as I stop desperately searching, ding, it arrives at my door.

Aparigraha and non-grasping

There’s a beautiful concept called Aparigraha. Translated from Sanskrit it quite literally means ‘non-grasping’. I love the idea of it so much I had it tattooed on my wrist as a constant reminder.

Think about it this way. If we clench something tightly in our fist, reluctant to let go of it, whether it’s an idea or a possession, nothing else can enter. When our fists are so tightly closed, grasping onto what they desire, we are closed off to anything that might be wanting to come in.

If a beautiful butterfly landed on your palm, would you crush it with your fist, so desperate were you to hold onto it? Or would you open your palm, admiring and appreciating its beauty, trusting that if it’s meant to stay it will.

Everything in this world is that delicate butterfly.

This is the spiritual law of non-attachment. Desire, without longing. Opening up to all that may come, trusting that what we’re seeking is also seeking us. Yet, it’s all too easy, especially in our materialistic-driven world, to hoard and grasp onto ideas or things, thinking that if we don’t get them, we’re failing somehow.

No way man!

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